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3 Things single girls need to do NOW make sure Valentine’s Day doesn’t suck


Where my single ladies at? Hopefully, you’re right here reading this! Hello, lovelies! Hope you’re having a wonderful start to 2015! But, anyone who’s ever been single can tell you that the start of a new year comes with some anxiety. A new year means Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. And that’s such a nerve-wracking holiday for single folks. Well, fear not single girls! I have 3 easy things you can do now to make sure your Valentine’s Day doesn’t suck.

Be OK With Being Single

Here’s what’s guaranteed to make your Valentine’s Day suck…you being hard on yourself for being single. And it’s going to make every first date you go on between now and then suck too. Not being OK being by yourself is a major turn off. Turn that desperation dial down and you’ll be a lot more successful in finding a date for V-Day. I know that’s easier said than done, so here’s a tip. Whenever I start feeling crappy about myself, I make a list of everything about me that’s awesome. I know it’s cheesy, but it makes me feel so good. And I save these lists and re-read them. Lists like that will make sure you’re feeling awesome about being yourself, single or in a relationship.

Set A Dating Goal

What I’m talking about here is a hard and fast goal that you can make happen before Valentine’s Day. Maybe it’s a goal about reaching out to a certain amount of dudes via online dating. Or it could be setting up at least one date a week. Or, maybe it’s asking that cute guy who’s always getting coffee when you are to get coffee together. Set a goal that will push you out of your comfort zone, but that’s achievable. For example, getting a serious boyfriend between now and Valentine’s Day isn’t a reasonable goal because that would mean meeting someone you click with and you can’t control that. But, going on five dates between now and then is completely doable because all you have to do is get on a dating app to make it happen! Come Valentine’s Day, you’ll feel good about yourself for making this goal happen, whether you’re in a relationship by then or not.

Think Positively

It’s easy to get down when you’re dreading your Valentine’s Day. But, don’t let yourself do it. Instead of focusing on the negative things, think about the positive stuff that you want to come into your life. Envision your ideal man, think about how happy you’ll be when he comes into your life, make your list of five non-negotiable traits you want in a boyfriend. Just keep your eyes on the prize and it will happen! I’m a big believer in putting out into the Universe what you want to happen. It’s always worked for me. It might not materialize your soul mate in time for Valentine’s Day, but positive thinking will definitely keep your holiday from sucking.

Good luck, single ladies. Stay tuned! I have a lot more Valentine’s Day ideas and advice coming your way!