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3 Dating resolutions it’s ok to break


On January first of every year, all of my single girlfriends make resolutions to improve their dating lives. And I fully support this. If what you’re doing isn’t finding you love, you need to change it. But, there are a few dating resolutions I hear my friends make year after year that I think are fine to break. Remember, you’re making these resolutions to find love, not make yourself miserable. If you’re miserable, it’s going to be really difficult to attract someone! So, here are some dating resolutions it’s ok to break.

I’m Going To Only Meet Guys In Person

Look, I get it. Online dating is tough! You can feel like you’re on a hamster wheel of first dates with total creeps. But, that doesn’t mean you should stop it and only try to meet guys in person. Online dating is a great resource for finding love and shutting it off completely is closing a door that could lead to your soul mate. Instead of swearing it off, why not tweak your profile, how you’re interacting with men on the sites or join new sites? The goal here is to find love and you can find it online. I did. So, don’t swear it off just because of a few bad dates.

I’m Lowering My Standards

Um, no. Girl, you deserve to be with the best person on the planet. Don’t lower your standards just because you haven’t found him yet. What you might want to do is change your priorities. For example, if you’re looking for a guy who’s David Beckham hot, Albert Einstein smart, Donald Trump rich, Chris Rock funny and Barack Obama powerful, that’s fine! Look for him, lady. But, in your search, you might want to prioritize one or two of those qualities above the rest. For example, look for a guy who’s funny and smart and you’ll be surprised at how hot you think he is once you get to know him. Did you lower your standards? No! You just grew to see his David Beckham hotness once you got to know him. Get it?

I’m Setting A First Date Per Week Quota

One of my friends told me she was going to go on four first dates a week until she met her husband, no matter how long it took. That sounds miserable, right? I’m not into dating quotas. Only go on dates with guys that you click with. If you’re having the most boring online chitchat with a dude and then say yes when he asks you out because you have a weekly dating minimum to meet, you’re going to have a bad date and then burn out on dating quickly. Plus, you need to be interesting for a guy to fall for you. And there’s no one less interesting than a woman whose only hobby in going on first dates. Definitely be open to first dates, but don’t force yourself into anything.

What are your New Year’s resolutions? Tell me in the comments below.