My girlfriends and I walked into a chic bar on Saturday night with the intention of dancing the night away. One was married, the other lives with her boyfriend, and I of course, was the single friend. They were excited to play wing-women for the night and were on the prowl for their lady. While we were in the middle of rapping along to 2pac’s, “California Dreaming,” two very attractive men turned around to sing along as well.
Girls read and write about guys that rejected them all the time! But what about the other guys? What about the guys that we rejected? Don’t they deserve a little attention?
We’ve all done this, found some guy that we were super excited about for a scant amount of time and ended up not liking him. Maybe this guy got your number at your favorite bar and you later regretting giving it to him. Maybe you went out with him once and felt no attraction. Maybe you got his name, stalked his medias and thought, “oh hell no!”. Whatever the reason, you just aren't interested.
People always ask me, “Bruna, why are you single?”
And I’m never really sure how to answer that. I don’t get bothered by it. In fact, it’s kind of flattering. But to nip it in the bud once and for all–and to find a way to fully and honestly explain myself–I’ve decided to try and explain why I’m still single here.
Man, I really open up to you guys.
There are a lot of different factors that contribute to why I’m still on #TeamSingle:
According to a study reviewed in Psychology Today
called The Truth About Compatibility: Expert opinions on love and compatibility, and the interaction between biology and behavior
(Hara Estroff Marano and Carlin Flora, 2004) examined relationships relative to compatibility and found that compatibility actually doesn’t revolve around a list of traits one has or doesn’t have, rather, compatibility is a process and something that one builds in their relationship. The study found that compatibility between a couple lies within the negotiating process within the relationship that is made up of one’s willingness to work together and both parties’ attitudes and dispositions.