Tag Archives: marriage

What to do if he’s not ready for the next step, but you are

Boys mature more slowly than girls. It’s a fact of life we’ve known since some twerp pulled our ponytail on the playground and thought it was flirting. That immaturity follows gender lines way into adulthood. And it gets more annoying along the way, especially in terms of relationships. It’s hard to be with someone who isn’t feeling the same emotions you are or in the same life stage, even if you are similar ages. A lot of my girlfriends complain about this when they’re ready to move in together or get married. Their long-term boyfriend doesn’t feel ready yet. It’s a real struggle a lot of couples go through. So, here’s some advice for how to deal. Read more

What happens if you don’t get married

My big goal when working with most of my clients is to get them happily married. I have a very high success rate and spend a lot of Saturday nights dancing at my clients’ weddings. It’s really fun! That being said, marriage isn’t in the cards for everyone. Or, it isn’t in the cards right now for everyone. I’m 54 years old and I’ve never been married. I know my soul mate man is out there and I’m learning a lot of lessons on my journey to meet him. But, until then, I’m single and unmarried and actually very, very happy. So, I wanted to write Read more

My Husband Is Selfish. What Should I Do?

One of my closest friends recently confessed to me that she and her husband are having problems. Or, more specifically, she’s having problems with him. I was really touched that she told me. Married people have so much pressure on them to paint a perfect picture of their marriage and pretend like they’re always 100% happy in their partnership. Here’s the real talk on marriage, though: No one’s 100% happy. Marriage is a lot of compromise and struggle and you just have to hope that the good outweighs the bad. And there will be some days, week or maybe even years when the bad feels heavier than the good, but hopefully long-term, you can switch those scales. I just think we need to discuss this a bit more so people don’t panic when they find themselves in a tough spot with their spouse and feel like their marriage is a total failure. That doesn’t mean that your marriage is a failure. That means your marriage is a marriage. Anyway, my friend told me that her husband was being really selfish and that she didn’t know what to do. I’m going to share with you all the advice I told her, just in case it’s helpful to anyone out there. Read more

How Kim Kardashian and “multiple marriers” can learn to make marriage work

Kim & Kanye
It has been exactly 34 days since Kim Kardashian and Kanye West tied the knot in a lavish ceremony at the Palace of Versailles in France, followed by a glamorous reception in Florence, Italy  – and everyone is wondering (don’t pretend you’re not) … will this one last? Or will it at the very least last longer than her 72-day marriage to NBA star Kris Humphries – a complete embarrassment for all involved, including the 10.5 million people who watched the wedding special on VH1. If only I could get those four hours of my life back. Read more

Why it’s okay to date a guy on the rebound

Rebound men
My guess is that both friends and dating columnists have warned you to steer clear of guys who are “on the rebound.” Well, get ready for the curve ball that I am about to throw your way. In my experience, this is not always advice you should follow! I strongly believe that if you are talking about a man who is a relationship-oriented guy (meaning he is most comfortable being in a partnership and knows how to be a committed boyfriend/partner) he is not going to stay single for very long after a break up. If you don’t snap him up fast, someone else will. That great guy will be off the market before you can even bat an eyelash. Why would you steer clear of such a winner just because he recently broke up with someone? Read more

How a player turns into a stayer

Couple celebrates an engagement
Welp, the impossible has happened. America’s favorite bachelor is officially tying the knot. That’s right. The mayor of Swoontown, George Clooney, proposed to his girlfriend Amal Alamuddin. And let me tell you, she’s an eleven. Not only is she gorgeous, but she’s smart and an activist. Beauty, brains and class—what a triple threat! As fabulous as Amal clearly is, I think every woman in the world is wondering how she turned the ultimate player into a stayer. Well, I know how and I’ll tell you. Here we go. Read more