The end of a relationship is never easy, especially when you are the one on the “dumpee” end of the stick. It’s normal to fall down a slight shame spiral, wondering what you did wrong and why nobody loves you and probably never will. While it’s okay to indulge in a 48 hour Netflix, Pinkberry and self pity binge, when you come out the other side you might find that are actually much better off. Sometimes being dumped can actually make you better, so next time you see your ex, tell him thank-you. It will really freak him out.
Here are three ways being dumped can improve your life.
1. You’ll be a better partner in your next relationship
It’s important to walk away from every failed relationship having learned something, anything, that you can apply to your next romance. It can be a huge life lesson (don’t date someone who is geographically undesirable), or something more insignificant (if he hates dogs, he’s out). Either way, you’ll be entering the singles game one step ahead of where you were last time. Knowledge is power.
2. You’ll be a little bit tougher
Dating really sucks sometimes, and it can harden your heart if you aren’t careful…but dare I say that a tiny bit of hardening is never a bad thing? Having a slight toughness to your heart means that it won’t fall in love so easily, and therefore, won’t get broken so often. With each heartbreak or relationship’s end comes the ability to be more selective and calculated with whom you let into your world, which means that you’ll stop wasting time on people who aren’t good for you and have more time to invest in the ones who are. No, this doesn’t mean you’re turning cold or jaded,
3. You’ll know yourself better
When you’re dumped, you will naturally want to know why. While this answer might never come from your ex (and if it does, it probably won’t be 100% honest), deep down, you know as well as he where the relationship went wrong. It’s not about placing blame, it’s about an opportunity to be completely honest with yourself so you don’t make the same mistakes in your next relationship. Even if he was just a jerk and did you a huge favor by cutting you loose, maybe next time you’ll notice the warning signs and cut things off before getting serious.
You can’t change the fact that you’ve been dumped, so you might as well make the most out of it!