What you’re looking for is a fit, which means asking candid questions. You need to know where people stand at the outset.
Your hands are tied due to certain technicalities, but you can still improvise. Creative interpretation allows for some leeway
An adversary is more resourceful than s/he appears. If you don’t want a protracted fight, then settle now. You’ll be much happier.
You won your confrontation so find a way to let the other party save face. You don’t want to plant the seeds for future resentment.
You’re in a tricky position where you must be pointed but not pushy. Outline what you want and let people make up their minds.
A “show me” attitude is understandable. You’ve been misled before. Yet you could scare off someone who’s as sincere as s/he is squeamish.
