The middle of a crisis is no time to reinvent the wheel. Support the structures in place. It’s because they weren’t being followed in first place that things are unraveling.
An older friend or relative acts as a safe harbor. S/he may not understand everything you’re going through, but their advice is still solid.
The more you try to be reasonable, the louder loved ones become. It’s best to listen to what they have to say until tempers cool.
You know you need to act when you mistake your spouse for the couch. Introduce small changes like one evening a week doing something outside the house and life improves.
Identifying with the underdog isn’t the same as being one. It’s all right to champion a “lost cause” but avoid getting overly personal about it.
It isn’t easy being forced to painstakingly master details, but in time you will. You may even grow to like it.
