Today, I want you to think about your flaws.
We all have them.
We’re all flawed. I always say the human race is the most imperfect race.
People always ask me what I like about myself and I tell them, I’m the most imperfect, perfect version of myself.
There are things I would love to change about myself. No matter how much I eat, I don’t gain any weight. No matter how much I work out, I don’t seem to gain any bulk.
There are many things we can always rip ourselves apart. I wish my hair wasn’t going gray. I know you’re probably thinking it’s sexy, but I hate it. I don’t like it. I don’t like gray hair, it’s coarse, it’s wirey, and it’s funny looking. It reminds me of my grandmother’s schnauzer.
You need to stop hiding behind your flaws. Stop talking about your flaws as flaws and start realizing they’re just part of the beautiful you.
But, we all have flaws. We need to learn to embrace them. The men you’re dating are flawed. Every single day when I go to the gym and walk through the locker room, I look at the flawed bodies. I look at the hair on their back. I look at their droopy butts.
I look at their un-manicured ear hairs coming out. I look at their funny little bald spots. They’re all flawed. Whatever your flaws are you need to embrace them. Embrace them right away. You need to stop hiding behind your flaws. Stop talking about your flaws as flaws and start realizing they’re just part of the beautiful you.
Maybe your butt is too big, maybe one boob is bigger than the other. Maybe you’re too short, you want to be taller, or you’re too tall, and want to be shorter. What you’re doing is you’re putting men on a pedestal that they don’t belong on. These men — are equally flawed guys.
What you’re doing is you’re putting men on a pedestal that they don’t belong on. These men — are equally flawed guys.
They’re just as flawed as you. They’re ripping their own bodies apart. I worked with a client yesterday. He’s sweet, he’s nice, he’s caring. But he’s 5’6″ and all he can talk about for a whole hour is short guys getting good-looking women.
A couple of weeks ago I had coaching call with a guy who has curly red hair. Hates that he thinks he looks like a cartoon character from Garfield.
I told him he could dye his hair, or he needs to embrace it. He said “I don’t want to dye it because I still have my freckles and still have my white skin.”
We all have flaws.
We need to love, honor and embrace them.
Here’s what I want you to do, I want you to stand in front of a mirror naked. That’s right, I want you to take off all your clothes and stare at your beautiful body.
I want you to stare at your body until you get really comfortable in your body.
I want you to look at yourself and tell yourself that you’re beautiful. I want you to look at yourself, sideways, back and front.
I want you to stare at yourself, stare at your face, stare at your hair. I want you to do this exercise every single day until you get comfortable with who you are.
You’re judging yourself on your physical appearance. Men, , are not really judging you. For every woman out there, there’s tons of guys that are attracted to them.
You’ve got to realize that. Look at your body type, look at your hair, your height, look at your flaws. There are women just like you who have the same flaws and they’re with men.
Embrace them, honor them. Feel amazed about who you are as a woman.
You need to get comfortable being naked. In order to date, in order to attract, in order to meet, you need to love the naked, raw version of you. Be naked from the inside out. Love yourself. Love yourself from the inside out. We all have flaws.
Embrace them, honor them. Feel amazed about who you are as a woman. Until you do that, nothing will change because if you go into relationship or any dating situation feeling insecure, feeling exposed, feeling nervous about being exposed. The relationship is sure to fail.
The minute someone brings their insecurities, everything goes crazy. Love yourself. Start with this exercise until you get comfortable.
I know it’s going to be tough in the beginning. But until you get comfortable, until you embrace your flaws don’t start dating because you won’t attract the man that is worthy of the beautiful, perfectly imperfect you.