Why YOUR Sexual Past is None of HIS Business

Q: Hi Emily! I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 42, and lately we have been having problems with his—as he calls it—“retroactive jealousy”. Though I am much younger than him, I’ve had many more lovers than he has. As a result, he’s always bringing up my past experiences and comparing them to his own. He constantly bombards me with questions and asks me to recall memories that I would rather not think about. Is it okay that he’s asking me to divulge my sexual history to him? What good could possibly come of it? How do I help him understand that my past has nothing to do with our present? Read more

Seeing Ex Lovers

I had a very interesting day. For some reason, the universe aligned in one day. I was somehow connecting with two ex-lovers. I hadn't seen either of them in a long time, but it so happens I had lunch with one and dinner with the other. I don't know how it all went down. Maybe an email, maybe running into another one, but it was an absolutely amazing day to reconnect with people who I had very nice warm feelings about from my past. Read more

Should You Get Back With Your Ex

It’s something we've all done. You feel a little lonely and down, and suddenly you start scrolling through your social media looking for your ex-lovers. You take a look for the people who were in your life in the past to see how they’re doing. I call this phenomenon “romancing the ex.” Read more

What to do if you can’t stop thinking about your ex

Ah, break ups. They’re heinous on all levels. Even the best, most amicable break up is pretty effing bad. Believe me, I know! Going through the break up can be hell, but what’s sometimes worse is that there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. You keeping thinking about that final conversation, what you could have done differently, if you should have ended things earlier, what he’s doing now, who he’s doing now. The list goes on and on. And sometimes, so do your thoughts. It can be weeks and week or months and months of obsessing over the relationship. Even when you don't want to be thinking about your ex, you can’t stop. Well, here’s what to do. Read more