Even if you think masturbation is the only thing you’ve mastered in adulthood, there are always new ways to do you. Think about it this way: would you have sex with the same person, the exact same way every time? I didn’t think so. Then why would you treat yourself that way? As Woody Allen put it, “masturbation is sex with someone you love.”
Get out your trusty vibrator and treat yourself with these 8 ways to make masturbation even better: Read more
Q: Dear Emily,
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but there is one issue that keeps popping up. He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it’s not the first time he has made this request. I masturbate from time to time, but never in front of another person! I feel like masturbation is such a private activity and trying to do it in front of him feels awkward and forced. The last time he asked, I got angry and told him to do it himself and see how it feels, but my plan backfired because he totally loved it. Why is this such a big turn on for him? And how can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable?
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Dear Emily,
I have a problem with masturbation — I can’t do it.
It’s not that I’m a prude about masturbation. Believe me, I have tried time and time again! I know what I’m supposed to do and I get how to do it, I’ve masturbated in front of a partner before and it was GREAT. But when it’s me by myself, I just can’t seem to get into it or even get to a place where it feels good. Since I’m doing the actual touching part the right way, I know it has to be something about my mindset. What am I doing wrong?
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Q: Dear Emily,
Thanks to you, I am now a woman with several sex toys. I have recently fallen in love with my Magic Wand vibrator, and it has totally changed things for me in that I can now not only orgasm, but have multiple orgasms! But now I'm wondering.. Is it bad that I only ever want to use my vibrator to masturbate? The things is, I've heard rumors about vibrators actually desensitizing the clitoris, and now I'm worried that I'm ruining my vagina! Is this true? Whenever I go back to using my hands, it takes SO long to get there and I'm not even sure if I'm climaxing. Has it already started? Am I addicted to my vibrator? Help!
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You’re in a relationship that doesn’t seem to be working, so you break up to get a better perspective- but then the minute the loneliness of singledom and the realization of being without your partner kicks in, you suddenly question your decision. It is normal to seek the comfort and familiarity of a recent ex, but when it turns into a recurring practice of breakups and makeups, can the relationship ever really recover?
Being able to please yourself is one of the most important steps in cultivating an amazing sex life. The great thing about masturbating is that you get to do it whenever you want and whether you’re in a relationship or not it’s important to know exactly how and where you like to be touched.
