What to do if he’s not ready for the next step, but you are

Boys mature more slowly than girls. It’s a fact of life we’ve known since some twerp pulled our ponytail on the playground and thought it was flirting. That immaturity follows gender lines way into adulthood. And it gets more annoying along the way, especially in terms of relationships. It’s hard to be with someone who isn’t feeling the same emotions you are or in the same life stage, even if you are similar ages. A lot of my girlfriends complain about this when they’re ready to move in together or get married. Their long-term boyfriend doesn’t feel ready yet. It’s a real struggle a lot of couples go through. So, here’s some advice for how to deal. Read more

My Husband Is Selfish. What Should I Do?

One of my closest friends recently confessed to me that she and her husband are having problems. Or, more specifically, she’s having problems with him. I was really touched that she told me. Married people have so much pressure on them to paint a perfect picture of their marriage and pretend like they’re always 100% happy in their partnership. Here’s the real talk on marriage, though: No one’s 100% happy. Marriage is a lot of compromise and struggle and you just have to hope that the good outweighs the bad. And there will be some days, week or maybe even years when the bad feels heavier than the good, but hopefully long-term, you can switch those scales. I just think we need to discuss this a bit more so people don’t panic when they find themselves in a tough spot with their spouse and feel like their marriage is a total failure. That doesn’t mean that your marriage is a failure. That means your marriage is a marriage. Anyway, my friend told me that her husband was being really selfish and that she didn’t know what to do. I’m going to share with you all the advice I told her, just in case it’s helpful to anyone out there. Read more

Cory Monteith, Lea Michele, and Dating After Love Lost

It’s been almost a year since the world was rocked by the untimely, tragic death of Glee star, Cory Monteith at age 31 from a reported drug overdose. While hearts bled for the actor’s family and friends, all eyes were on his longtime on-again, off-again girlfriend and Glee co-star, Lea Michele, and how she handled the news – and they still are. Just recently, photos surfaced of Lea hanging out with her new boyfriend, “If You Say So” singer Matthew Paetz – the first guy she has publicly dated since losing Monteith. The two met on the set of her music video back in April, which Matthew is featured in, and the photos show them laughing, relaxing in the park and going for a hike. Losing a loved one is one of life’s most terrifying nightmares, but losing a significant other at such a young age and so unexpectedly really makes you wonder – how do you ever recover? Read more

The Most Toxic Relationship Behavior

Do you have interactions between you and your partner where you feel your partner is mean and even downright cruel, or vice versa? Do you feel like your partner is disgusted by you, or maybe you’re disgusted by your partner? If so, you’re in dangerous relationship territory. Read more

How To Get A Guy To Marry You In 20 Minutes

Man proposes to his girlfriend with a diamond ring
To be a successful matchmaker you certainly don’t have to be married or in a relationship, but it does helps if you are able to take your own advice. The advice that I have given in this column, including my recent article on mastering the art of seduction, are techniques that I have personally found success with. In fact, they worked so well for me that my husband proposed to me within 20 minutes of us meeting each other! Here’s how it happened: Read more

Creating a wedding to reflect YOU

Woman holds perfect flowers for her wedding day
When a couple first becomes engaged, and the waves of “Congratulations!” have begun to subside, some of the very first questions that their friends and family will inevitably begin to ask them is, “So what is your wedding theme?” or, god forbid, “What are your wedding colors?”.  Although some might disagree with me, I strongly believe that the couple is, and should be, the theme of the wedding. Read more
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