Can You Have “Hot” Monogamy?

Couple engages in "hot" monogamy
Lately, the topic of swinging has come up a lot in my office. For those who might be out of the loop, swinging is when singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Married couples will often choose to swing in the hopes of keeping their marriage exciting, alive, and full of passion. Swinging is becoming vastly more popular, especially in the suburbs, and I find that my clients broach this topic with me on a pretty consistent basis. They usually want to know if it’s possible to have a monogamous long-term relationship full of spark and interest, or if trying something like swinging is necessary as a way to keep things exciting with their partner. Read more

Why Do Men Watch Porn?

why do men watch porn?
Women ask me this question all the time. “Why do men watch porn? I’m with a great guy, and we have a great sex life, but he still insists on watching porn. Why won’t he stop?” So why do guys watch porn? To be honest, I believe men watch porn because they don’t want to tell women what they really desire sexually. And from a woman’s point of view, it’s difficult to know exactly how to turn a man on. If he doesn’t talk to you about his fantasies, it’s impossible. Read more