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What if your man doesn’t like your new look?

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I have been noticing a major trend among celeb women recently—the massive hair chop. Everyone’s doing it! Even Kim Kardashian West cut her hair and I seriously thought pigs would fly before she lost those amazing locks. Next to her booty, her hair is a major personal trademark of hers. But, she took the plunge and she looks great. I know that a lot of women out there take their style cues from celebs, so I’m thinking that there are a lot of ladies with recently trimmed ‘dos. I also know that short hair typically isn’t a favorite look for most men. So, we could have some men out there who aren’t in love with their ladies’ new look. And while I think women should generally be dressing and primping in a way that makes them feel great, when you’re in a relationship, your boo’s happiness is your happiness, so of course you want your man to love the way you look. If you think your guy doesn’t like your look, here’s what to do.

Explain to him what you like about it

Your man might just be shocked by the change and not able to see what’s so great about it, just that it’s different. So, point out what you love about your look. Maybe your new hair cut brushes your collarbone in a way that really turns you on. Maybe the new look is low maintenance and you can spend more time on what’s important to you and less time straightening your hair. Maybe you feel like a warrior princess with your new style. Basically, you have to highlight the positives of what this new look is doing for you. He might be too hung up on how different you look to see the benefits!

 

Go back to your original look sometimes

We all do special things to make our men super happy, like cooking his favorite food or putting on lingerie. If you think he preferred your old look better, every once in while, give him that look. It could mean different make up or clip-ins or a wig, whatever. Think of it as role-playing. With this version of role-play, though, you won’t be a sexy stranger, you’ll be playing a version of yourself from the time period when you two first started dating. A little fantasy and dressing up does every relationship some good.

 

Tell him to get on board

If your man really is bellyaching about your new look, you’re going to have to give him some tough love. Tell him to get on board or get out. It’s just a haircut or new lipstick, not a personality change. Let him know how all of his comments about your new look make you feel and why you want them to stop. Also, you might want to be sure that he understands the concept of your happiness being his happiness. You’re trying to make him happy, but he has to try just as hard to make you happy!

Tweet me pics of your new looks. Who knows? Maybe you’ll even inspire me to take the plunge into a bob!

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