Has anyone out there not seen the First Kiss video? A US clothing brand got 20 people together and filmed them kissing for the first time in front of a camera.
It was mesmerising, steamy and quite beautiful. However, the people doing the kissing were models, actors and singers – extremely good looking and not exactly a genuine representation of how awkward, messy, or intimate a first kiss with someone can be.
The film got me thinking about chemistry and the whole idea of first kisses. If you haven’t gotten to know someone at all, can you still have that raw spark? And is that enough to make you consider them as a potential longterm partner.
I decided to remake the First Kiss video with 20 normal singletons from my dating agency. The idea was to matchmake the singles, throw them a drinks party beforehand (guys in one room, gals in the other) and introduce them for the first time on camera. To kiss.
Afterwards I interviewed them to see if anyone was keen for a first date off the back of the first kiss. My question was:
Is chemistry enough? Or do we all need a bit of chat?
Watch the film here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EFXkYFdR0P4
12 bottles of prosecco and 20 kisses later, the singletons reported back.
Only 4 out of 10 couples agreed there was chemistry in their kiss. But not enough to warrant a first date.
Another 3 couples got their wires crossed – one partner thought there was chemistry, the other denied so much as a spark. (It’s a scary state of affairs when you think you’ve had ‘a moment’ when you really haven’t…)
Another 3 couples said there was nothing there – it was uncomfortable and a little surreal.
So the moral of the story? Chemistry is important, but sexual attraction alone isn’t enough to get you to that first date.
As Patti says, no sex before monogamy. And no kissing before connecting!