You’ve found a cutie-patootie that makes you smile, makes your heart pitter patter and makes you a little juicy goosey. Congratulations! Initial attraction is important but just remember, it’s love when you can run errands together. If you’re still hesitating to celebrate the new dude because you’re stressing about him falling for you too, here are a few of the biggies when it comes to telltale signs that your relationship could be on its way to Heartsville. I’ve been there. It’s tough because you don’t want to scare him away with “the talk” too early, but once you hit a certain milestone you have to tell him what you want. My advice is to look for hints that he’s inching towards head over heels.
The future talk
Really listen to what he’s saying. Is he talking about you two together when he talks about his future? And it doesn’t have to be super serious moves like combining your 401(k) accounts. What I mean is, is he hinting at little things in the near future? Is it Memorial Day and he’s already asking you about Fourth of July plans? If yes, then he could be falling. Hints like this means he can picture himself with you for a while longer, which is as much as you can ask for when you’ve just been together for a short while. If he proposes things like cooking you dinner, meeting his guy friends, or taking you on dates that involve with his hobbies, he probably thinks there’s something positive between you guys.
Friends & family
Think back on the few weeks you’ve had together. Who has he introduced you to? Is it just his doorman and the drive-thru guy at Wendy’s? Not good. But, if he’s introduced you to his bestie, his brother or even co-workers, you’re on the right track. Introductions to important people in his life mean that you’re on the track to becoming an important person in his life.
On his mind
Look for little signs that you’re on his mind, even when you’re not together. Did he text you a picture of something you’d think was funny? Did you mention that you liked doughnuts on your last date, so he showed up for your next hang out with a box of Entenmann’s? Little hints that indicate he’s thinking about you when you’re apart is a good indication that you’re on your way to a loving relationship.
Trust your gut
As girls, our gut is our best friend. (I mean that metaphorically. Literally, we work hard to get rid of our gut!) You need to trust yours. If you’re not thinking straight, here’s a tip. Pretend you’re listening to your best friend talk about her new guy when you think about your new relationship. Honestly, would you be happy that she’s finally found a good guy in the slew of wackadoos out there or worried about her getting hurt by this guy who doesn’t seem that into her? If it’s the first, good for you and your loving future. If it’s the later, well, I say follow your gut more than your heart. It’s normally the smarter of the two. If you let lust steer you off course, finding Mr. Right will be a longer journey than it needs to be. Don’t be afraid to give him another chance or a few more dates to see where it goes – if you still don’t think he’s the guy for you, don’t waste your time or his!