Category Archives: The Sex Files with Emily Morse

Ask Emily: Is a Casual Sex Relationship Right for You?

Dear Emily, About 5 years ago, I had a casual sex relationship with a man and it was the best sex I’ve ever had. We went on a few dates, but there was no intellectual connection. And that was fine, since neither of us were looking for anything serious. Fast forward to now: I broke up with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago and recently texted my old booty-call asking if he is single. He is, but he mentioned that he is looking to change that. Now, I know we don’t have a connection, we will never have a relationship and we’ve both said we’re over the casual sex thing. However, I haven't been physically satisfied for over five years with anyone except for him. Read more

Ask Emily – Help! I’ve Been Faking O’s

Hi Emily, I've been with my boyfriend for around 8 months and have still never had a REAL orgasm during sex. And as if this isn’t bad enough, my partner has no idea, because I’ve gotten into the habit of faking it. I know, it’s terrible! Now I’m tired of pretending and am ready for the real deal, but don’t know how to confess my sin. I want to be honest with him, because it’s not fair to him or to me, but I feel like it will break him if I tell him the truth. How do I approach this? Thanks, Alexa Read more

Sex Toys to Put a Spring In Your Step

This might be a surprising thing for a sexpert to say, but there are few things more satisfying than a good old-fashioned spring cleaning! Sure, there’s nothing sexy about 6 hours of concentrated decluttering, but that’s not really why we do it. Every spring, we clear out the old junk in our lives, both literal and figurative, to make way for something better! Read more

Why YOUR Sexual Past is None of HIS Business

Q: Hi Emily! I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 42, and lately we have been having problems with his—as he calls it—“retroactive jealousy”. Though I am much younger than him, I’ve had many more lovers than he has. As a result, he’s always bringing up my past experiences and comparing them to his own. He constantly bombards me with questions and asks me to recall memories that I would rather not think about. Is it okay that he’s asking me to divulge my sexual history to him? What good could possibly come of it? How do I help him understand that my past has nothing to do with our present? Read more

Can a Relationship Survive Cheating

Dear Emily, I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and up until a month ago, I thought we were the perfect couple. Then I found out he cheated on me last year. It was a one-time thing with a woman he used to work with, and he swears that they didn’t keep in touch afterward. He confessed this all to me, and I got the sense that it had really been eating him up inside — for a good reason, clearly. Read more

Fun & Sexy Date Ideas You Haven’t Tried Yet

Dear Emily, I'm 26 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We do our best to keep things interesting, but this year my goal is help us spice things up even further! I've been attempting to plan bi-weekly date nights that will 1.) Help us turn up the romance outside the bedroom and 2.) Inspire us even more inside the bedroom. Read more