Category Archives: Relationships

Advice on everything related to love and relationships.

Viva Mexico: Why your honeymoon is important

We did it! We finally tied the knot five years and a Sin Halo later. Our wedding was spectacular: We could not have asked for anything better! The ceremony was held at The Carlton NYC in Millesime Restaurant and Lounge. We took photos in Central Park, and then went right back to Millesime for the reception. Our crazy Tim Burton style cake by Cake Alchemy was delicious and our little boy danced the night away with all of our guests. He was Destin’s best man. It was beyond magical... but not quite as magical as the night that followed! *wink* The next day, we took flight for Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, for a honeymoon at the Grand Velas that we will never forget. When we arrived, we were greeted, handed a cigar, a Bird of Paradise and were then whisked off to the resort. The sun was shining, it was hot as Hades’ backyard, but we were married and in love and that was all that mattered. Read more

Bittersweet wedding blues

Patia on bittersweet wedding blues
I met Jessica in third grade. She stood by me even after I projectile vomited on the audience during our fourth grade choir concert. So I stood by her even when she disclosed she had chosen Infinity Dresses for her bridesmaids. When we arrived at the three-chair salon in rural Puyallup, Washington, I quickly Googled pictures of my desired hairstyle, knowing that my vision left to interpretation by this stylist would be reminiscent of homecoming 2004. We all took turns getting our hair done, sipped mimosas and put together wedding programs. As anticipated, the hair stylist/anti-Christ French-braided my bangs and secured my tightly wound curls with hairspray that has most likely caused permanent damage to my respiratory system. Read more

It’s Twitter chat party: Let’s talk about sex

Hey Tweeties! Today, I am answering all of your steamy sex and relationship questions! Me, my besties Rachel and Destin and my hot assistant Patia are hosting a chat party on Twitter and are ready for a big Q&A love fest. The hashtag of choice? #AskPatti. You don't want to miss it! You can start submitting questions now by commenting here or head straight to my twitter and I will answer them, chat with you and give advice. So, be sure to say what's on your mind. Plus, you may catch your tweeted question on the upcoming season of Millionaire Matchmaker premiering in the Fall. Remember, there's no such as a stupid question. Only sexy ones. Ready... set... Tweet! (Remember to use my Twitter handle and #AskPatti.) Read more

Summertime at casa de Pfaff

Makin' Love with Rachel and Destin
Summer is here at last… and boy is it a hot one! We live out in the fabulous LA Valley so it’s even more sweltering. It’s amazing how it can go from 85 degrees F in central LA to 100 degrees in the Valley! The question is what to do when summer is at its full glory? We have learned how to have fun in the sun in the most creative of ways -- especially when you have a toddler! Let’s talk about your home. We all know that when the pavement is melting, the last place you want to be is outdoors. How about turning your pad into a cool beach oasis? Read more

Keeping in touch with an ex

We all know looking for the one is no easy task. It can happen in the blink of an eye or could take eons. During your quest for love, you’ll cross many speed bumps. These speed bumps are your exes. Right for you at the time, but not right for you forever. A lot of times when we dissolve a relationship, both parties move on to bigger and better things, continue new adventures and go on their merry ways. Every now and then, there are hangers -- exes that need to be EXterminated. Sure, you could be friends with your ex. Maybe you were friends before you even got together, but is that really advantageous to your quest for love -- to have that person always hanging around to potentially mess up your love energy? Read more

How and why to staycation with your lover

Rachel and Destin on a stay-cation with Sin Halo
Everyone needs a little break from the madness that we call life. Between matchmaking, movie making, TV filming and Sin Halo raising, we know all too well about needing some serious R&R! For most people, it’s tough to get away for a long period of time -- not to mention the tons of cash it takes. With a schedule that is all over the map, it's hard for us, too! So we like to go on staycations where we get away while staying close to home. Every staycation can be as easy breezy or extravagant as you like… or can afford. Here are some great ideas that Destin and I have done in the past. Read more