Hope you lovelies has a gorgeous week. I definitely did. I’ve been super swamped with work recently, but I had some very successful dates with several of my clients this week. And getting those phone calls is the best. I’d stay in the office until midnight every single day of the year if it meant more gleeful post-first date calls. Another reason my week was so great was your questions. Let’s jump into them.
@pattistanger I have been dating this guy for a month . We mostly text .I have not seen him in a while . Is this a red flag ? #Askpatti
— Courtney renfro (@23_court) October 31, 2013
Short answer: Yes. Dating and relationships are really about what you put into them. Find someone who’s willing to put in the time to get to know you in person, not just via text.
@pattistanger I need to start dating again but don’t want to do online – new suggestions? #AskPatti
— Stabnifico (@drama_rani) October 31, 2013
Why wouldn’t you want to try online dating? Aside from hiring a personal matchmaker, it’s the best, most efficient way to meet quality men who are looking for relationships. If you’re trying to avoid online dating because you think it’s lame or only for freaks or that real men don’t online date, think again. I met my boo online dating and I couldn’t be happier. Your happiness could just be a click away!
@pattistanger I met this guy… he’s stable, nice, gentleman… I’m not physically/sexually attracted to him at all!! am I doomed? #AskPatti
— Kelli Riane Kaut (@kelliriane) October 31, 2013
You need to be attracted to the guy, but not necessarily physically attracted to him. Do you find his intelligence sexy? Does his sense of humor turn you on? Can his smile make your legs feel like jelly? If the answer to these questions is yes, then who cares if he has muscles and a perfectly symmetrical face? But, if he’s just nice and stable, but nothing gets your juices flowing, move on. You have to have chemistry to make a relationship work. And chemistry takes a lot more than niceness and stability.
@pattistanger Where’s the best place for a 41YO never been married w/o kids woman to meet a man…offline? #AskPatti #Chitown
— Carolyn Wright (@CJWright72) October 31, 2013
What is it this week with women who are anti-online dating? The best place for a 41 year old woman to meet guys is online. There are no ifs, ands or buts about it. Of course, there are other options. But, they’re just not as efficient or as effective. Hang out where men hang out—steak house bars, cigar shops, electronics shows and comic book stores, for example. Really though, start making that profile if you want to meet a man.
That’s it for this week, my loves. Can’t wait to answer your questions next week. I know they won’t disappoint!
